What's worse...someone that won't apologize or....

Someone who won't accept an apology?

Someone that won't apologize. To me it shows that they think they can do no wrong.

What about a long time friend that you somehow pissed off and now shuns you? You are genuine and are truly sorry for what happened and the 'offense' was fairly minor and yet this friend won't give you the time of day now. Wouldn't that make this person pretty much the same? I see this person as being a goody two shoes and your apology isn't good enough let alone you are no longer good enough for them.....

Valid point. Some people have staunch beliefs they never back down from, no matter how small to others. I would hope my long term friends would hear me out.

If it were me I'd be questioning how true of a friend they were.

Depends on what you are apologizing for. Something minor? Or did you bang his wife, mother, or daughter? The original offense may or may not be something that can be apologized for......

Been there.
- Maybe your 'good friend' was really just a 'good acquaintance'
- Maybe your bud is stuck in a high school mindset of drama and punishment while you've continued to grow beyond that
- Maybe they are in a home situation that leaves them insecure and powerless and this is the only way for him to feel in control
- Maybe its a bigger deal than you realize.

Doesn't matter.

You've, no doubt, made several attempts to get beyond the event. Its been rebuffed. Now you are left with ongoing drama.

Life is too damn short to go down that road. Remember the good times you had. Reach out to others and cultivate new friends. Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to let go. Sometimes its the best thing you can do for yourself.

Actually, 'she' is a friend of my wife but is a major control freak and can do no wrong. My wife puts up with her because of our business dealings with her since my wife likes the type of work which is estate sales. I also worked them too but here lately, I've lost interest. Just too damn hot. The women work the inside of the house and I took care of the outside and at 64, just don't feel like being out in the Houston heat for 10 hours a day for even one day, let alone 2 or 3. A couple of months ago, between my brother in law (who has been living with us for 3 years), my wife and then this friend adding into the mix, I lost my temper. I didn't scream at anyone or anything like that but just spoke my mine about what they were doing that day which was being nosy neighbors watching what was going on across the street which was none of their business and were even using binoculars. On top of that, this friend had my driveway blocked....again! They were supposed to have left over an hour ago to work at getting an estate sale ready for the weekend and were already behind on it. I had asked this woman to please not block the drive several times over the past several years. The drive is 120' long and plenty wide for 2 cars to get by but being a control freak, this is just one of the things she does. The story is totally different when someone blocks her driveway. Sounds like real petty crap, doesn't it. Well, she lost her temper too and messed up a wall when she left saying she'll never ever drive into our driveway again as she flung open a door upon leaving. No problem with that but now when she comes to pick up my wife to go to work, she parks out on the narrow street making my wife walk out there, rain or shine and in the traffic.

Drama. High Drama. So basically you are looking for a way to get her to quit penalizing your wife for something you said to her.

Basic power play on her part.
It appears that you had a moment which proved you are human with human emotions and she did also. The difference is the followup using adult behavior to take responsibility for your actions (you have) versus the game-playing, grade-school attitude to force you in the dog house. With that tasty extra of putting your wife in the dog house with you.

She isn't a friend. She is an acquaintance. A work buddy.

There is nothing you can do to 'make' her forgive you. You've tried the apology road and you've expressed concern about the welfare of your wife. If neither of these adult behaviors has changed her mind, there is little you can do.

Quit trying to fix this. Women of her age that do the drama and games are not going to change at this point in life. You either wait her out til she gets over being mad or make amends to get back in her good graces. I doubt you have enough money or patience to make amends that would satisfy her.

Houston weather is a be-atch as is the traffic. Other than driving your wife down the driveway, there is nothing you can do to force her to come up to the house.

Take a deep breath and let this go. Last thing we want to read about is 'Houston man, loves trucks, taken to ER,

Yup...have pretty much decided that it's best just to ignore it and forget about it. My sister (another major control freak) used to give me a lot of grief over dumb stuff and I finally got sick if it about 5 years or so ago and well, told her where she could go....life has been much better since doing that.

Captain Caravelle said:

If it were me I'd be questioning how true of a friend they were.

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I'd unfortunately have to ask the same thing.....

Good points, I've got some that have shunned me because of lies that they never confronted me about and I've got people that crossed me in ways that I never care to speak to again. In the end I could care less, I I've got a great wife and 2 beautiful kids and quite frankly don't need much more. I don't need any dramma!

LocuMob said:

Someone that won't apologize. To me it shows that they think they can do no wrong.

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Let them live life very lonely then!